While the feeling of being loved is amazing, one cannot forget the feeling of being abandoned or rejected by others. When someone is unable to commit fully in the relationship, it is not a challenge to chase them and try to make them stay. Rather it should be an honor to change your feeling and let them go. It’s not you, it’s never about you, it’s about them; their path, their journey, and their inability to present unconditional love.
Instead, you become a different version of yourself, you reject yourself, you abandon yourself and stay in silence – and will do anything to avoid the feelings of pain and terror at being all alone. In times like this, you should go deeper beyond the place of fear into the quiet, seek your truther, and then you will find the strength. You will find a purpose and you will be healed.
And always remember no one can tell you what is right for you, you yourself should decide to stay in bed all day or to go shopping. But if you are experiencing these similar challenges in your relationship, it may be the perfect time to move on.
1. They tell you that they don’t want commitment
You shouldn’t force them to be into something that they don’t want to be in. Believe them when they say “they don’t believe in or want commitment.” You cannot change them and it shouldn’t be a challenge for you.
Remember this by all means is not an invitation to try harder, you cannot fight to get their love. If you have to convince them to show up for you, and if they are getting all the benefits of a relationship without even working for it, then it’s one of the signs to let them go. You must ask yourself that is this what you want? To fight for someone to say in your life? Is this how love is supposed to be?
2. Distance between you two?
Actions speak louder than words, if they are slowly moving away from you, and your relationship isn’t moving forward. You are unable to talk through or unable to understand what’s causing the distance between you two or worse, they don’t acknowledge it.
There is no amount of love can fix it, it may be time to acknowledge that they’re unwilling to uphold their part to your relationship. At this time your main focus should be you, trust that if they are your’s they will find their way back.
3. Never There When You need Them
When you get into a relationship, you start to share things, the highs, and the lows. Eventually, it becomes a habit, and you share everything with them. But as time passes they are not with you when you need them to be. They put brakes every time you try to share anything and instead of acknowledging this and doing the work to heal, they pull away.
4. You doubt yourself when something is wrong
When a relationship it is hard for people to understand or accept that another person has stopped finding them attractive and they are not interested in the relationship. Even if you try your best nothing can bring them back to you as you already lost them.
Now you start doubting yourself even you know that you aren’t the one causing any trouble in the relationship. You try even more to keep them your side. It is normal for couples to have conflicts but if this remains for a longer period of time, and this is your normal then it’s another sign to let them go.
5. They don’t follow through or they disappear.
They say all the right things, they tell you that they will take you out, they make all the big plans but when the moment arrives, they either didn’t show up or forget about it. They forget the commitments they made for you. If someone is interested in you and love having you around, they will always find time for you. Someone who only shows up when it’s convenient for them is filling a void in them, it works for them but not for you. This is not loving, time to move on.